Bennett

We have four kids! That number just sounds crazy, but adding Bennett to our family has, so far, been a smooth transition. I need to write about his birth while it's still fresh in my mind!

Bennett's due date was Sunday, August 2nd. We kept hoping it would be July, though. He had measured a little big at all his ultrasounds, and I thought he may have actually been due a few days earlier. 

39 weeks. My pregnancy was great. I got a little uncomfortable near the end, with my feet swelling pretty bad, but that was about it. I did have low blood sugar, which I usually do during pregnancy, and felt like I needed to eat all day long. But no morning sickness, no heartburn, and any hip or back pain was quickly taken care of by my husband :) I felt big, but I'd also been much bigger before. So, no complaints here.

At my 38 week appointment, my doctor mentioned that he was still measuring big (she estimated 8lbs already), so I was starting to get nervous that he would be huge. At my last appointment, at 39.5 weeks, I was dilated 3cm and my doctor stripped my membranes. I'd had this done before, but this time was much more painful. I came home, and a couple hours later, I started to feel sick to my stomach. I went to lie down (Lindsey was here to take care of the boys) and started to feel crampy. I knew that this was something that could happen after having membranes stripped, and assumed it was just that. I also started to feel tired and feverish. I stayed in bed for hours and the stomach pain and crampy feeling came and went.

I continued to feel pain that came and went all evening, and had just a mild fever of about 100. I just felt horrible and too nauseous to eat dinner, so I took some Tylenol and went to bed. 

I woke up at around 1:00 am to strong cramping pain. It felt different from the braxton hicks contractions I'd been having forever, and hardly felt like a contraction at all. My belly didn't really get hard and the pain didn't last very long. With both of my previous pregnancies, I was induced, so I didn't really know what to expect labor to feel like when it started on its own. I checked the clock every time the pain came, which was around every 20 minutes, and tried to rest in between. I did this all through the night, and by around 5:00, they were coming every 10 minutes. They were painful enough that I'd ask Rob to put pressure on my back during some of them, but we still stayed in bed and slept in between contractions until about 7:00. Then we got up and showered and grabbed all the last minute hospital bag items. And I don't know why, but we were still questioning whether it was time to go to the hospital or not. The contractions were still around 10 minutes apart, and only lasted around 30 seconds, but the crampy feeling was more constant so I'd sometimes question if the contractions were actually contractions or just pain from having membranes stripped. Because they still didn't seem to make my belly rock hard! I really didn't want to go to the hospital and be sent home. 

Then, the contractions suddenly started coming every 4 minutes. The pain was strong so we got ready to leave. I said goodbye to Collin, then was saying goodbye to the twins on the stairs when a strong contraction came and I thought I was going to throw up and/or pass out. I suddenly felt rushed, so we got out the door. 

I had 3 or 4 big contractions on the car ride, and each time felt that lightheaded nauseous feeling. I also started to really feel the pain in my back that I recognized from previous labors. I was a little worried that we'd wasted too much time at home and that I'd be too late for an epidural! Rob dropped me off at the emergency entrance at about 9:00, and I was wheeled to Labor and Delivery with Rob running to catch up. They took me straight to L&D triage, and I was just trying to walk around or find any possible position to relieve the pain.

Taking a quick final pregnancy picture between contractions

The nurse quickly checked and told me I was dilated to almost a 6. I asked right away about that epidural! It seemed like we waited around forever to sign all the paperwork and get to my labor room. I held my barf bag close and every contraction made me feel like passing out. Rob rubbed my back and put pressure when I asked. The nurse told me my blood pressure was dropping pretty low during contractions, and that I'd need to have a bag and a half of IV fluids in me before I could get the epidural. She checked again and I was dilated to 7cm. I asked if there was anything I could take for the pain in the meantime, and they gave me a medicine that they said "wouldn't take the pain away, but would take away the edge." I had no idea what that meant, but as soon as it came through my IV, my body felt warm and relaxed and wonderful. My blood pressure went back to normal and I just rested. Finally, around 11:30, I was able to get the epidural, and rest a little more. 

I was in no rush after that, and I felt comfortable and calm. I was dilated to 8cm right after the epidural and knew it would be soon. The next couple of hours passed, and soon enough someone was breaking my water and my doctor was there and it was time to push. It hit me that it was really happening, and I was so excited. It took only about 5 minutes of pushing before our baby was here! We couldn't believe how quickly he came and how perfect he was.

Daddy and Bennett

Sweet new baby

Bennett Alexander Grimmer

July 31st, 2015, 2:43 PM

8lb 4oz, 21.5 inches

He was our first baby whose name we had decided on before going to the hospital. In my first trimester, I spent one day looking at boy names. I just knew that we'd been looking at boy names for years and didn't have any favorites left, and I wanted to find one. I came across Bennett, and it became my instant favorite. It had never been on my "boy name" lists before, but I felt like it just fit. It means "blessed." As soon as we found out our baby was a boy, that was the name that always came to mind when I would think about him. And Alexander is after my middle name (Alexandra), which was Rob's idea.

The morning after Bennett was born, Rob picked up the boys to bring them to the hospital. They were so excited! They were all smiles when I opened the door for them to come in, and the twins kept saying "Baby Bennett!"

Collin is such a sweet big brother, and asks to hold Bennett every day. The first thing he said when meeting him was, "He doesn't have hair like ours."

Elliott loves looking at the baby and helping take care of him.

Truman wasn't so interested in holding him at first, but he loves his baby brother.

Then the twins were more interested in playing in the curtain.

We planned to go home Sunday morning, but late Saturday night, the nurse told us that Bennett had a Coombs positive result on his blood test, which makes him more susceptible to jaundice. He had to spend the night in the nursery under phototherapy lights. His levels were better by Sunday afternoon, so we were able to take him home Sunday evening. He had two more blood tests at his pediatrician's office last week, and his bilirubin levels have fortunately stayed safe.

Ready to go home!

Lindsey and her kids were visiting the weeks before and after he was born, so she was alone with all 7 boys while we were in the hospital! Kyle came on Monday and spent most of the days out and about with his kids, and it was really helpful to have Lindsey here!

Sign made by all the boys

First night home- It felt so good to be back with our boys, watching them all snuggle up to a book like normal while I held our new baby.

Caught a little smile

I am loving this little baby so much! He is just so perfect and tiny and sweet.

First bath

Truman, Bennett, Elliott

"Give him a kiss!"

Elliott and Bennett

Our days at home have been great. The twins are doing surprisingly well with the change, and Collin loves being a helper. It's been so nice having help too! Lindsey was here our first week home, Danielle is here now for week two, and my parents will be here next week. I'm so thankful for all the help with the older boys during this transition, and even feel like I've been getting enough rest! I really have been able to just snuggle my baby and enjoy the newborn stage. We're so happy to be a family of 6 now!

First part of July!

4th of July- We had a great 4th of July! We started out the morning with the primary bike parade! The boys had fun decorating their bike/wagon and riding through the neighborhood for the parade.

 They were probably most excited to come back for doughnuts at the end. 

Truman

T,E

Elliott

"Come on, Tru!"

I think I took so many pictures of Truman and Elliott because they just looked so grown up to me. They've just gotten so tall!

 After the parade, we went swimming at the YMCA. It was a lot of fun until disaster #1 of the day happened. We were all in the toddler pool, when Rob got a panicked look in his eye and pointed at Truman saying "Get him out now!" I quickly grabbed him and saw what the problem was: poop. Leaking out of the swim diaper. We rushed all the boys to the dressing room and cleaned up, and fortunately Rob had caught it before it was worse.
After swimming, we went to Panera for lunch. Then headed home to rest a little in the afternoon. Rob's boss had invited us to his neighborhood party that evening where they had tons of fireworks, so after dinner we headed there to watch. This was where disaster #2 happened. There were a bunch of people there and tables full of fireworks they were setting off in the street. We sat on blankets on the lawn and watched. Dr. Lahoe's daughter Phoenix and Truman were sitting on my lap, and Phoenix got a blanket to put over herself and Truman. The kids were all loving watching the fireworks, but then I looked over, and one of the fireworks that was supposed to shoot into the sky fell over and started shooting at the people instead! (Something that I always fear when people are shooting off fireworks near people). Like slow motion, I saw one shoot under someone's lawn chair and explode, and then another one a little closer, as people were scrambling out of the way. I tried scrambling out of the way too with the 2 kids on my lap, and then saw one land right on our blanket. I twisted away with the two kids, but my eyes did not leave Collin, who was sitting on the blanket right next to it. Panic. There was no time to do anything, and it exploded. I don't know how, but Collin was untouched. The blanket we were sitting on, and the blanket that was on top of Phoenix and Truman, each had a hole burned through them. Rob and Elliott were on another blanket and I'm not sure if another one landed near them but Rob said he tried smothering it with the blanket. Maybe that was why the blanket took the burn instead of any of us. It was one of those things that we kept replaying in our heads but it just happened too fast. Everyone was fine, amazingly. We took a break after that and went into the backyard. After that, though, every time a firework made a noise or we saw one in the sky, Truman flinched and clung to us and was terrified. So, we went home. We had our own little sparklers and pop-its to set off and the boys had fun with that. I think Truman has gotten over his fear, but the twins both still talk about it, saying "Mean firework" and "Firework hurt me" and "Stay away fireworks." I must say, this is one phobia I really wouldn't mind them having.

Sparklers!

Truman

Rob had to show everyone that it was safe to hold it.

Tru

Elliott got nervous and dropped his as soon as it lit, but he loved smashing the pop-its!

Sleepyheads (T,E)

And a few more pics from early July! I figured I'd better stay updated since our baby will hopefully be coming soon! Enjoying our last days as a family of 5!

I sneaked this picture at church because I've just been loving Sacrament meetings these days. All three boys have been doing so well! (I think I've earned the right to brag because of how crazy and exhausting Sacrament meetings were last year with these boys!) We hardly even use snacks or books or distractions any more. We just snuggle the entire hour. The twins switch from Rob to me (though Rob is probably more popular with the twins and Collin loves to lie on my lap and get his back scratched). I love it and I honestly think they do too. I hope Sacrament meetings will continue to be so sweet and affection-filled, and I would even say (surprisingly) peaceful.

Elliott, Truman. They love their daddy.

We took advantage of IHOP's 57 cent short stacks day for lunch. Mmmm (T,C)

Collin and I went to the stake's Mother/Son activity. We brought lunches and there were lots of games. Collin really wasn't interested in playing any of the games, but enjoyed finding things for the nature scavenger hunt!

And of course he was a fan of the popsicles.

Last week, some sweet friends (Annie and Tiffany) threw me an awesome baby shower! It was so much fun to celebrate our boy who will be here soon! The food was adorable and delicious and the games were hilarious and fun.

Me and Tiffany

Diaper cake topped with a Jimmy Fallon book? Coolest ever. (This was from Annie)

Onesie sugar cookies

This picture turned out blurry, but I really loved that two of my best friends from Portland were there. Kari and Sam have both been a part of all my babies' lives and it's extra special that they were able to celebrate this little one too. I love that they both still live so close to us again!

I couldn't stop staring at all the adorable things I received for our baby boy. This is just a few things, but I was so grateful for everyone's generosity. I may be superficial in this way, but looking at all these fresh, new things and beautiful fabrics and prints makes me so excited for our new little boy! I also thought it would be fun to document some of the new things I got for our baby so that he might be able to see someday. 

Oh these boys, working together to get into the empty cookie dough bowl.

And this picture brings us to yesterday! We attended a birthday party with lots of fun games, but our boys didn't want to get involved, Truman just wanted to hoard that water balloon forever and they just kind of stood off to the side together. I like to think they still had fun though! :)

Collin and Daddy

Daddy and Elliott